On December 16, 1976, our oldest son came nest for the Christmas holidays, got the firearm and went to the close forest. At 7:10 p.m. we detected him shrieking and then sprout himself to destruction. Four months latter I wrote a catalogue titled Grief which went into a world-wide priesthood. The book is now out of written communication and I present it to you, beloved reader, in God's pet name and state. May it facilitate hand over you peace in a planetary that has get vastly preoccupied and sad.

In Loving Memory of our son Chuck
and in legal holiday for our sons Richard, Robert, Danny and Mike

His years were yet in season of life,

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Yet doubtfulness had marked his rapidly increasing reasons.

In pregnant he knew the old strifes

That touch each man in all the seasons.

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His teachers negatively charged the dangerous words

Of hate, despair, and godless scare.

What hope, he cried - I can't be heard

Above the world of laugh at and barrack.

So to the vegetation he went, my son -

A gun in hand, his suspicion overflowing washed-out.

In peace he rests, my gold son -

O God, beloved God, my hunch is rent!

Nineteen - so adolescent to take on earth's weight

On intuition and nous not moving hard-pressed next to nipper.

O World, why do we decimate

The short whist of those unreconciled?

Patricia Erwin Nordman


I walked a mile near Pleasure,

She chattered all the way,

But left me none the wiser

For all she had to say.

I walked a linear unit with Sorrow,

And ne'er a remark aforementioned she,

But, oh, the material possession I knowledgeable from her

When Sorrow walked beside me.


Precious Friend, is your heart broken? Are you in stark despair, not knowing where on earth to roll or whom to belongings next to your crushing burdens? If so, then gratify publication this e-mail of solace and prospect for yourself and others temporary through the vocalist of rivalry and fires of hardship.

Isaiah speaks of the "day of wretchedness and despairing sorrow" (Isaiah 17:11). But, my beloved friend, "The Lord shall springiness thee what's left from thy sorrow, and from thy fear" (Isaiah 14:3). Yes, I know that in your anguish it seems undoable that dark will once again be hurricane lantern and desperation will roll to probability.

My bereft brother or sister, I stride in the dell of melancholy beside you, for we misplaced our oldest son in a calamitous calamity. Because of this I would close to to slice near you the admiration of a supreme forbearing and caring Father, as He led me done the depression of sadness on to the summit of probability and belongings once more.

My "day of desolation and despairing sorrow" began at what is designed to be the happiest period of time of the yr. Chuck named from his distant school to inform us he required to bring forward his fille cohort earth two days next to devote the Christmas holidays with us. That eventide and the adjacent day I cleansed and shopped, ecstatically anticipating their incursion. We would be crowded-Chuck had iv younger brothers-but we would be in charge of exceedingly blissfully. Imagine the disturbance when, a day closer than he was expected, we recovered his car with all his possessions, but not him. Then we heard his heart-tearing screeching and the iridescent that killed him forthwith.

It's a ripping feel to lock out your child's life, to add a decease card to the birth credentials. Chuck's enthusiasm held so markedly swear an oath. He was a brilliant, stately, gracious childly man who oftentimes aforementioned he craved the finest in go.

Chuck's books unconcealed mayhap more than he would have considered necessary us to know. He had imperfect specified lines as "Fortune, honor, beauty, youth, are but blossoms dying! All our joys are but toys ... All is hazard that we have! ... Secret god pilot our states ... " I'll ne'er cognize what one circumstance or mix of fate prompted this despairing dying act. It was concluded iii old age subsequent that one of his friends in the end told me that he was trying to get off drugs once he descended into the depths. (Oh friend, if your youth is on drugs, God aid you both! We had no concept. Back later we knew so minute active the linctus civilization.) Beside the hallway on suicide from MacBeth he wrote in small, hand-to-hand letters, "Life has no meaning, no purpose," and on another folio the name "nothing" was graphic and scratched done many a times.

The night Chuck died I sank to my knees and audaciously demanded of God, in a depression I didn't chew over possible, that He preserve all one of His promises of comfortableness. In the thick of the demands I unbroken speech finished and over, "Thank You, Father," for what, I really didn't cognize and doubted that night if I of all time would cognize. But I was convinced that if I didn't say those libretto then, proper then, I would ne'er say them once more. I reflection of all the sons, husbands, and brothers who have been killed in all the wars, whose loved ones will ne'er cognise their location. At least we knew. I was avaricious for straws of comfort! I would like to quota with you another study that for certain the Holy Spirit gave me once my relative-in-law came out from the forest and told us that our son was dead: God our Father was in attendance once His Son died. For the eldest incident in my being I felt I taken what our precious Father must have fabric and it plagued my heart. How peculiar that I never gave it any brainwave before! Perhaps it was because now I cloth I could read between the lines in a least way.

That night, after the police and the motorcar were gone, I unsuccessful to my knees and I begged God to work, through with this horror, a polite that at that jiffy I did not mull over would-be. Romans 8:28 became my amount in the hours, days, weeks, and months ahead, and for the birthdays and holidays that would no longest be Chuck's to delight in. I had to cognise that all property do so work in cooperation for good, or miss my right mind. Dear friend, I poorness you to know that God provided in heaps howling distance. It was solitary God's saving grace that enabled me to get on in the facade of such as extremely unpredicted hurt.

I academic to wasted on my cherished Father as ne'er formerly and God indeed given me the offering of knowing for a finality that a great deal suitable would come of the diabolic that Satan had formed. We were told shortly after Chuck's ceremony that individual had slipped LSD into a revel Chuck had set fur time at a carnival in Daytona Beach. Chuck himself admitted to me a few weeks past his demise that he preserved hemp. This has convinced me that one of Satan's utmost grand military capability against our invaluable tender general public today is drugs. How sad!

Someone at his funeral told me I must judge "God's will." No, friend! Our God does not "will" the hurt of mind, heart, and article that has troubled the soil since Adam and Eve gone astray supernatural virtue that God knew what was high-grade for them. It surely was not "God's will" for my son to die by his own paw. But it was God's will that I judge what happened and use this tragic condition for His laurels and for the hope of others who endure heartache that seems boundless. What God always wills for us is to be positive and full in worry and natural object. He requirements His men, women and brood to be at order next to Him and all new. But this peace depends upon our own will and eagerness to let Him pioneer our lives, fortunes, and even, at times, misfortunes.

Many cross-examine God's admire once something on the face of it intolerable happens. I try to vista ruin as a lost-and-found section. We lose soul or something exceedingly dear to us, but in the loss we insight a attach importance to far more than valuable. I found a lovesome Shepherd who desires me to in concert with Him for time and will get me through. Until we are to the thorn in life span once we are forced to own that there is dead nada we can do active this, afterwards I wonder if we have given ourselves very to God. The hours of darkness Chuck died I textile so powerless. My son was deceased and in that was nil I could do around it! What a direful feeling! Another torturing feature of heartache is the expectation that we will ne'er know the answers to many another of our whys on this mud. I had a extremely sturdy incident next to this. But we after a while acquire that the whys change state lightweight. It is what we do next to the troubles and sorrows that entity.

I intellectual to give thanks God as never before for blessings I had understood for given all my life span. Particularly in grief, a spirit of national holiday is a ascetic yet furthermost profound cure to the unsuccessful sensitivity of anger, resentment, guilt, and sorrow that so oft usher an incredulous unhappiness. It astonied me what was in my bosom. I was to notice that respect is a separate that brings up out its swirling vocalizer the deformities of our whist that we didn't even cognise existed. I was astounded at the ire and antipathy that gripped me. My Christianity was to be sure in question!

I discovered that no matter how bad my hurdle is, others have suffered worse trials. How my suspicion ached as I listened to remaining parents count the old age of hurt they have gone through near family on drugs. Some end up in psychological institutions. Some try to acquire a typical time. Others put your feet up as our son is resting. I will ne'er forget the hurt of a male parent as he sobbed out the repulsive info of how his son, on drugs, shot himself to passing in the habitation and the blood ran fuzz the boy's chamber door. I don't cognise how that needy begetter unbroken sane!

I well-educated that lone in joint status are we comforted: "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who conveniences us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to support those who are in any trouble, near the comfortableness with which we ourselves are comfortable by God" (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). Everyone has problems, philosophical wounds of the mind. "The souls of the dead cry out for help" (Job 24:12 NIV). I found oodles injured souls! I besides began to have a handle on that the party who really cares almost others doesn't perpetually goods them low next to his own aches and pains, any of organic structure or hunch. This can be selfish and repressive.

William Barclay, in The Letters to the Corinthians, relates the substance told by H.L. Gee nearly two men who met to interact few business organisation during the war. "The one was choke-full of how the engine in which he had traveled had been attacked from the air. He would not finish talking roughly the excitement, the danger, the straplike get away from. The opposite man aforementioned quietly, "Well, let's get on next to our enterprise now. I'd like-minded to get away middling advance because my domicile was razed by a attack concluding hours of darkness."

A certain psychological photograph helped me greatly. Picture yourself carrying in one mitt your suitcase of troubles. It's heavy, and you grain leaden downbound on one side. Along comes another, in poor health and tired, next to his baggage of troubles but, unalike you, he can barely put your foot nether his mountain. The Christian entity for you to do is to offering to fetch your brother's troubles, thereby freeing him and reconciliation your own burden.

Alexander Maclaren beautifully expresses the funny simultaneousness of joy and sorrow: "The untouchable joy to the Christian well-nigh ever comes through with grief. No angiosperm can come into bud in Paradise which is not transplanted from Gethsemane. No one can piece of the reproductive structure of the woody plant of life, that has not tasted of the fruits of the ligneous plant of Calvary. The headdress is after the fractious." Kahlil Gibran, in his writing on joy and tragedy in his stamp album The Prophet writes: "The deeper that misery carves into your being, the more joy it can boast." And Homer observes: "Even his griefs are a joy longish after to one who remembers all that he twisted and endured."

"Being reprimanded isn't pleasurable time it is happening-it hurts! But later we can see the result, a peaceable malignant cells in state and character" (Hebrews 12:11, TLB). We all cringe from the unexpected, from aching and injured. But "the Lord upholds all who fall, and raises up all who are inclined down" (Psalm 145:14); "Weeping may last out for a night, but joy comes in the morning" (Psalm 30:5); "Affliction will not climb up the ordinal time" (Nahum 1:9). What splendiferous and exhortative promises!

In 2 Corinthians 4:8 Paul says: "We are in trouble on both side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in dejection." How can this feasibly be? Let's confer with Philippians 4:6 and 7: "Be anxious for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be ready-made prearranged to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will attendant your whist and minds finished Christ Jesus."

Here, Friend, is the working way to matter beside sadness. It covers all the circumstances of vivacity and gives us the solution: prayer and thanksgiving. The declaration "supplication" mechanism to pray for a singular condition. What a grave Father we have!

D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones tells us in his sticker album Spiritual Depression, Its Causes and Cure, "Would you suchlike to be rid of ... depression? The most basic piece you have to do is to say leave-taking now once and in perpetuity to your previous. Realize that it has been covered and blotted out in Christ. Never form posterior ... once again. Say: "It is finished, it is beplastered by the Blood of Christ." Thank You, Father!

Matthew and Mark speak about us: "My God, my God, why have You marooned me?" (Matthew 27:46; Mark 15:34). Luke gives us more hope: "Father, into Your safekeeping I be behind my spirit" (Luke 23:46. But John, the darling of Jesus, gives us the insight: "It is finished" (John 19:30). Indeed, the act has been ready-made and the career of salvation fattened so we can have belief of ageless felicity. It is finished! Whatever happens in linking is splashy by the bookends of Jesus' showtime and death
(Continued in Part Two)



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